Alcoholism and gambling addiction run in our family. Be very, very careful around booze and gambling.


14,16, 18, 21



Check out fencing. Local fencing club has classes for kids and adults all ages. They also do birthday parties, so that might be something different that would be fun for him and his friends.


10



Never make a decision from a place of hopelessness.


14, 16, 21



Read Harry Potter series to him / with him.


9-10



Check out First Stage and Wolftrap performances


15



Appalachian Mountain Club


9-13



Keep a pair of nail clippers in the car - much better lighting outside. Clipping tiny fingernails is terrifying!


Infant-1



“But what is grief if not love preserving?” - Unknown


18



No matter how late you are, don’t speed or drive unsafely. It’s not worth someone’s life or limbs.


18-18, 21



Set up a 529 plan. Virginia has a great plan if you don't want to do too much research https://www.savingforcollege.com/


birth-age 3



Open a Bank Account


8-12



Appreciate other cultures when traveling or interacting among people from different cultures. Once on a mission trip, the locals brought coffee and cookies by in the afternoons, but I never took any. I regret that lost opportunity for connection.


14, 18, 21



Put down your phone and be in the moment. Teach this. Model this.


7



Plan trip to Outside Lands music festival at Golden Gate Park


17



Writing is thinking.


14, 17. 21



When they turn 18 they should have a will, a financial power of attorney and a medical PoA.


17,18



When making decisions or setting goals etc, approach from the perspective of your truest self. That’s integrity.


14, 18, 21



Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


12-15, 21



Love then when they least deserve it because that’s when the need it the most.


3, 13, 17



Pool safety- never touch equipment and always have a grownup present when swimming.


3-8



“Love is giving your heart without expectation.” - Dan Fogelman


16, 21



Before speaking (or texting) ask yourself three questions: Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary? If not all three, don’t speak. (PS “kind” isn’t the same as good news. You can deliver bad news with kindness.)


11, 14, 20



People learn all sorts of different ways. I found I learn best by repetition (drills) especially true for skills. And by listening for studying. Recording my lectures in college made a huge difference in my ability to learn and retain material. Let’s find what works for you.


14, 17



Kids (and people of all ages) need attention, affection and appreciation. It’s not all they need, but it’s a start!


11



It’s very easy to wander into trouble- not usually easy to wander out of it.


12



Discuss the concept that “It’s not always about you.” Some days need to be about supporting someone else in their joy - or sorrow. Your needs take a backseat.


11, 14, 17



1

All behavior is communication.


2-6



Know the difference between an inconvenience and a tragedy. Hint: If it can be fixed with money or effort, it’s probably not a tragedy.


15, 20