You’re not obsessed with that person you’re just hyper fixating. It’s ADHD.


12, 16, 19, 21



Look for glimmers. The opposite of triggers. Feels of elation, belonging, peaceful contentment. I just watched you glimmer as you delighted in your first Crunchbox. “I made this!!!”


12, 15, 19, 21



Keep a pair of nail clippers in the car - much better lighting outside. Clipping tiny fingernails is terrifying!


Infant-1



1

Practice these skills: Love yourself Respect yourself Value yourself Enjoy yourself


4, 6, 8, 12, 15, 17, 21



Sioux Nation quote: No one heals himself by wounding another.


16



You can’t be a good parent if you’re a miserable person. Take care of yourself. Make the changes necessary to get in a good place. Ask for help. The happier you are, the happier they will be.


1, 10, 15



“You matter to me.” Is a beautiful way to express your feelings when a relationship is new.


15, 17, 21



Monty Python movies.


12-15



Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


11



Read “Attack of the Black Rectangles” by Amy Sarid King.


12



Read Moth by Amber McBride. Young adult fiction in verse about grief. Twists and turns.


15



Talk about how choices become habits. Habits can become addictions. Describe how pathways are literally dug into the brain and it's very hard to change them once those paths are made.


13-16



Enroll in a CPR course. Re-certify every year.


13



Book “Rainbow Relatives” is a great resource to be able to kindly, accurately and sensitively answer their questions about LGBTQ families.


6



Go to Montgomery County Fair


5-14



Read A Mother’s Reckoning by Sue Klebold (mother of Columbine shooter.)


12



Watch “The Sandlot” together. Great story about friendship and showing up for each other.


8



Just fill ‘em with love. Every other parenting mistake or deficit can be fixed, but if a child grows up thinking it’s not loved and doesn’t have a place in this world, that is a recipe for permanent and painful damage. Not necessarily “spoil” them, but cut them slack as often as possible. Just love ‘em up.


Infant-21



Google Taylor Swift contrast Kim Kardashion at 2024 Superbowl. Good vibes are always better than “cool.” Show up. Dog park energy. Forget trying to look cool.


15, 17, 18, 21



Professor Scott Galloway’s advice: Paraphrasing his standard wedding toast: “1. Express affection and desire. Everyone wants to be wanted. It’s healthy and it is part of what makes your relationship singular. 2. Never let your wife / girlfriend be hungry or cold. Two thirds of the really awful arguments you’ll have it’s because someone is hungry or cold. Carry blankets and protein bars. (You’re welcome.) 3. Don’t keep score. Decide what kind of friend / son / daughter / spouse / employee / human being you want to be, and practice being that. Put the scorecard away.”


21



At dinner time, go around the table and share your “highs and lows” for the day. (Re-ticket up to 21)


5



You’ve been entrusted with so much. Think about how much of an honor that is, and how big a responsibility.


16, 18, 21



If you ever borrow someone’s car, return it with a full tank of gas.


20



Learn what triggers you. It’s probably just two or three things. Work on your issues


14, 18. 21



Check out First Stage and Wolftrap performances


15



If you have a goal, just dive in. It's okay if you mess up or fail. Start over, get help... but start.


13, 18, 21



The moment you lose your cool, you’ve lost.


12,13, 14, 15, 16, 21



The person you have the most electric connection to may not be the ideal choice for a life partner.


15, 19, 21



If you don’t have anything intelligent to say on a subject it’s fine (encouraged) to say nothing. Listen. Learn.


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