Sometimes hookups don’t go well. The vibe is off for whatever reason. Stop. It’s okay to say “actually, let’s just call it a night.” Trust your gut. Be kind but never apologize for saying no-thanks.


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“Write hard and clear about what hurts.” - Ernest Hemingway


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At the hospital? Always confirm your name and date of birth and why you’re there.


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Questions 1. How did you fail today? 2. What did you learn? 3. What do you love about yourself? 4. Name something you’re grateful for. 5. How are you in service to others? 6. Did you feel God’s presence today? 7. Are you happy in your heart? 8. What is something that scares you? 9. What do you need to feel safe and supported? 10. What’s something you like doing that makes your heart happy?


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Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


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It's natural to avoid change. Try to learn to accept change, embrace it if you can! Change is good. :)


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Set up a dog agility course in the backyard. Use household items or toys, etc and lots of dog treats for training.


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Being well-read is better (and cheaper) than an advanced degree, especially for broader education. Stay curious and read!! Fiction, non-fiction, biographies ...


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Music, arts, words or dancing can have a profound effect on the spirit. Let's find something that gives you chills!


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If you have a goal, just dive in. It's okay if you mess up or fail. Start over, get help... but start.


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Being accountable means saying that I was responsible for making sure this did not happen - but it did happen. I accept the blame and an prepared to incur the consequences. I will work earnestly to earn back your trust and confidence. The opposite of accountability is to make excuses or blame someone else for your mistake.


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The Paradoxical Commandments by Keith Kent: 1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centred. Love them anyway. 2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway. 3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. 4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. 5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. 6. The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway. 7. People favour underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway. 8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. 9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway. 10. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.


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Never post a pic to social media that you wouldn't want Grandma to see. NEVER send or ask to receive naked pictures. It's tacky, gross, illegal and not worth it. Even if "everyone does it". It's rude and disrespectful.


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Do something that feeds your soul every day. Experience or create joy, even if just a small spark of it.


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That trope “everything happens for a reason” is, I think, b.s. But I absolutely agree that you can find meaning in anything good or bad.


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You think you’re smart now but just wait. Your brain is just getting warmed up. Feed it: books, travel, music, mushrooms.


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Octavia Butler’s “Parable of the Sower.”


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Check your ego. Often.


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I highly recommend you read The Crane Wife by CJ Houser.


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Explore the magic of Deer Valley YMCA Camp


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“All the best things in life live on the other side of fear.” - Will Smith’s grandmother.


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“The Greatest Generation” by Tom Brokaw Listen to audio or read together


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Poems are great tools to help them to read, recite, practice handwriting, and illustrate.


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Don’t feed the thing you’re fighting.


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Before you quit your job - or leave your spouse, etc. consider that you may be suffering from anxiety or depression. We sometimes attribute outside things (or people) as the cause of feeling desperate for change. But sometimes it’s just that our brains are fogged with anxiety or depression. Help is life- changing.


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Come and go in peace.


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Read BIOGRAPHIES. So many interesting stories and valuable lessons. Historical figures, those close to them (those are often the real treats!) Also people from all walks of life, different industries. Artists, entrepreneurs, athletes, statesmen, etc. Bonus points for listening to the audiobook if subject narrates it.


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“First the pain. Then the waiting. Then the rising.” Glennon Doyle


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Read the instructions. Don't ask for help if you've been given instructions but haven't yet read them. RTFM. (Read the flippin' manual.)


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