Check in on your friends. Even the ones that seem fine.


14-21



1

Stage one relationship: first few dates. Stage two, you really like them. Stage three, you love them and are exclusive. Stage four: you commit to building a future together. You’re going to have many stage one and two relationships. Probably a few stage three, and if you’re lucky you’ll have one or two stage fours.


14, 17, 21



In professional setting: Limit one exclamation point per email, if any. Definitely no emoticons.


19



“Those who cannot change their mind cannot change anything.” -George Bernard Shaw...... As you live and love and learn, your views will evolve. It takes courage to grow.


16



Read Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson together.


17



Don’t worry if they’re not listening to what you say...They watch what you do. They study it.


13



Birds of a feather flock together


14



Great article about teaching young kids how to do better than “I’m sorry” when they’ve caused another child pain. https://offspring.lifehacker.com/what-to-say-to-little-kids-instead-of-say-sorry-1819288365?fbclid=IwAR0bKgo60isKj6a5D2s3cs1leWCIyK9TXTBK62upV9U1S_bR0otfJndwg_k


3, 8



Send thank you acknowledgemnt for gifts received


1-21



1

Surround yourself with people, places and spaces that feed your spirit. At the very least, avoid those that drain your spirit.


17



Give your all on the job, from your first day to your last day there. If you’re all caught up on your work help someone else with theirs.


17, 21



Use Shutterfly or something like it to make Christmas books and birthday books each year.


Infant-21



When making decisions or having a disagreement, it’s very easy to get stuck in defense of your position because we just feel so strongly about it. Without realizing it, we can discount good alternatives and or fail to see the strengths of other people’s viewpoints. As an exercise to avoid getting caught in this trap, make a habit of listing 3 reasons why you might be wrong. Stretch to accommodate the possibility that your strongly-held belief just may be wrong.


14, 18, 21



The version of you that will handle whatever problem comes your way will be born into existence in the moment when it happens. Trust your future self to handle future challenges.


12, 15, 21



Introduction to 70’s Southern Rock. Skynyrd, Allman Bros, etc.


14



Guard your health and fitness as if it were your most valuable possession. (It is.)


14, 17, 21



Sioux Nation quote: No one heals himself by wounding another.


16



Let’s look for examples of bravery.


8



You don’t have to look for love. You definitely don’t have to audition for it. All you need to do is be the most “you” you can be. And if you have no idea what you love or who you are…congratulations! Figuring it out will be the best part.


13, 15, 16, 17, 18, 21



Look into YMCA “family camp” in PA.


7



Visit the Grand Canyon together


18-21



“First the pain. Then the waiting. Then the rising.” Glennon Doyle


16, 21



“Praise in public. Discipline in private.” This is good advice for when you’re a parent and for when you’re a boss.


20



“If you want to be beautiful, make beautiful choices.” - (Greek philosopher whose name I can’t remember.)


10, 13, 17, 21



Fall in love with a person, not a feeling.


19



Never post a pic to social media that you wouldn't want Grandma to see. NEVER send or ask to receive naked pictures. It's tacky, gross, illegal and not worth it. Even if "everyone does it". It's rude and disrespectful.


11-13, 18



All behavior is communication.


2-6



The Buddhists say “life is suffering.” I think struggle might be a better word. Struggle is unavoidable, and it would do us good to stop expecting otherwise. And yes, everybody experiences pain and loss, etc. but I don’t believe we should expect our lives to be full of suffering.


17, 21



Life is like the ocean: Filled with energy, beauty, scary schit, lots of interesting creatures and so much to be in awe of. We couldn’t possibly control it but we can be a part of it.


16



Try not to say insulting or hurtful things, but NEVER write them. (Texts, notes, emails, etc.)


11