Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


14



A simple trick to calm your nerves: Name 5 things you can hear right now.


5-15



When someone suffers the loss of a loved one, don't shy away. Go to the service. Check in during the months following. Say the name of the person who died when you talk to them. Forward pictures of the loved one if you have any, share stories. There are exceptions to this, so always take your queue from the person who is grieving.


18



In the wise words of Taylor Swift, you don’t have to forgive or forget in order to move on. You can just…move on.


15, 21



Approach difficult conversations looking to learn something, not to prove something.


16, 21



People don’t abandon people they love, they abandon people they’re using.


19, 21



“Human beings are linked, not ranked.” - Gloria Steinem (f*ck the patriarchy)


15



Some relationships (or jobs) are f*cked, and cannot be unf*cked. Release them and move on.


21



If you don’t have the words, borrow them. Send a song or a poem. As long as the sentiment is yours, the vowels and consonants don’t need to be.


13, 16. 21



Teach them what to do if they hit an animal while driving on the road. (First find out what you’re supposed to do, THEN teach them.)


16



Being well-read is better (and cheaper) than an advanced degree, especially for broader education. Stay curious and read!! Fiction, non-fiction, biographies ...


15, 18, 21



Teach them that when we hear sirens it means someone is in trouble but help is on the way.


2-5



Men worry about getting laughed at or rejected by a woman. Women worry about getting killed when they reject a man. Let that sink in.


15, 21



People have big feelings when they realize how unjust and unfair the world can be. Totally natural and healthy. The problem starts when they channel those feelings into destructive actions and beliefs: violence, war, crime and hatred. We will be so much better off if we can learn to deal with our collective and individual pain in a way that is therapeutic and constructive. Maybe we can help each other to be creative in the face of fear, grief, pain, anxiety, anger, betrayal, injustice.


14, 16, 19, 21



You’ll miss me when I’m gone, but if I did my job right you won’t need me.


21



Read The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe together.


8



Build a treehouse together


8



Sign up for typing class. (Keyboarding)


13



Let decency be like a religion to you. Practice it …but don’t preach it.


14



None of us should ever have to apologize for being who we are.


10, 14, 21



Introduction to 70’s Southern Rock. Skynyrd, Allman Bros, etc.


14



I think the term “find myself” simply means figuring out how much of what you do/think/want/believe/care about/ feel is there because some parents, siblings, family — or institutions — or ad campaigns — or political party, or whatever put it there and fed it, vs. how much ch of all that you present to the world and to yourself, is genuine…The good, the bad, and the ugly? (Go find yourself! Tell the rest of us to F off!) xoxo


18, 21



“First the pain. Then the waiting. Then the rising.” Glennon Doyle


16, 21



Fire drills. Practice what to do, where to go if the house is on fire. Have an escape plan.


5-10



Be mindful of privilege. Discuss the concept, point it out where you see it.


11-18



Institute “Family Night” a screen-free night of games and fun and togetherness. Can use these times for conversations about things you want to address / teach. Maybe make theme nights and build around a lesson so it’s fun and enjoyable. Continue through school years.


4-6



You’ll be finished with school soon. The most important thing I hope you learned is that there is still so much yet to learn.


21



You’re gonna be misunderstood a lot. Some people just won’t like you. It’s okay. Wish them well and let it go.


10, 13, 16, 21



From our beautiful Grandma Marie: Go easy on the makeup, get serious about skincare. Don’t skimp, use good-quality products on your face and neck. And remember SUNSCREEN on face, neck and hands every day!


16



Don’t take criticism from people you wouldn’t take advice from.


16