Don’t quit your job until you have another job. Suck it up and make the best out of it.


21



Sometimes you don’t know what to do, can’t figure out what’s the right direction for you. That’s okay. Try thinking about what you *don’t* want to do. (See John Cusack career plans speech in 1989 movie “Say Anything.”


11, 16, 19, 21



With toddlers (or teens), first acknowledge the emotion. Then deal with the behavior. Validate their feelings. Once everyone is calm, address the behavior and discuss consequences if appropriate.


2, 13, 17



Quit trying to uncrazy the crazies


17, 21



When it comes to conflict- what is your part in things?


15, 21



Try using “No doesn’t tell me your needs” when toddler / little kid disobeys. “Were you trying to be funny? Do you need a minute?”


3



The opposite of addiction is connection.


11, 14, 17, 20



Home is where people love you.


21



If you’re going to be wrong about someone, let it be because you believed the best of them. (Give people the benefit of the doubt.) put it this way— I’d rather be wrong about my husband being a moral person who would never cheat, then come to find out he had done, than I would like to be wrong about him being a horrible person only to find out later he was faithful all along.


20, 21



No one knows what they’re doing. Just be kind and brave and curious. You don’t have to have it figured out.


17



Let’s look for examples of bravery.


8



Sign up for typing class. (Keyboarding)


13



Read J.R.R. Tolkien's The Hobbit together


11



Go to College results. Org to look at graduation rates. How likely is a rising freshman at that school to stick it out and graduate in 4 years? HUGE variation, it should factor in their decision.


16



“When it comes to consequences, don’t speak what you won’t serve.” Meaning don’t threaten any punishment you’re not willing to enforce. This is helpful in terms of teaching the child a lesson and also an important lesson in not shooting yourself in the foot. (I took away your tv one day you were home on a snow day. Bad idea. That punishment was against my own interest! I got no work done.


2



Cut people some slack, everyone is entitled to a bad day.


17-20



Knowing something is right and application of it are two different things. To apply yourself takes discipline. Practice it.


15



Golf lessons. Grampa loved golf, if he were here he would have taught you himself.


9



Start explaining wants vs. needs. Continue explaining for the next 30 years. We don’t always get what we want. That’s okay. 4 year olds can begin to understand this.


4



Make sure they have resources other than us. Hotlines for teens such as Boys Town National Hotline, National $@!#% Prevention Lifeline, etc.


12



“Success is liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” - Maya Angelou


13, 15, 21



Watch YouTube video on how to administer an Epi-pen injection. You have friends with allergies you may need to know how to do this.


11-15



Remember what a teenaged sh*t you were before throwing in the towel on the next generation. We’re all self-centered, entitled and oblivious when we’re young. The goal is that they don’t *stay* that way. Be the parent they need, and they’ll listen. It may take a year or twenty, but they’ll see the light if you just pour love into them.


12-21



Read Admiral William McRaven’s autobiography Sea Stories.


17



Appalachian Mountain Club


9-13



Parent the way you want your children to behave. Compassion, patience. Loving.


1, 2, 3, 4



Talk about the difference between not feeling comfortable and not feeling safe.


7, 11, 14, 19. 21



When you’re at home in your own skin you invite people to be at home in theirs too.


14, 20



Read poem “Wild Geese” by Mary Oliver. (“...You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves...”)


17



If it makes you happy it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.


11, 14, 20