Before a play date or sleepover ask the parent “Are there any unlocked guns in the house?”


6-9



Of all the things I worry about, addiction is very high on the list. Begin talks (age appropriate) about addiction.


7



Read The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe together.


8



Read at least one biography every semester. between winners and losers read about the failures read about the great men and women read about historical figures American icon stage and film to battlefields to business read all about how great men and women made themselves great and learn from them here are a few to start Ted Kennedy he gets north star am Kristin Chenoweth Tina Fey I’m reading one now on call baker from the Bush administration Barack Obama Jimmy Carter Ronald Reagan Kennedy Roosevelt all those guys as well as Michelle Obama Jackie Kennedy all of those. Draft


19



Quit trying to uncrazy the crazies


17, 21



Remember Mom's birthday


2-21



“You’ll never be alone when you carry a poet in your pocket.” - John Adams Bring a book with you wherever you go.


12, 19



Love then when they least deserve it because that’s when the need it the most.


3, 13, 17



Summer concerts at Wolftrap- get good seats so they can really get a sense of the experience.


13-16



“In the middle of the pain you didn’t cause, the change you didn’t want, the reality you didn’t know was coming . . . your life can still be beautiful.” Lysa TerKeurst


20



Any thought about self-harm is like a “check engine” light going off for your brain. Seek professional help. You will recover.


12, 14, 15, 17, 19, 21



Healing takes time. You can't rush it. Whether it's your body, your mind or your heart that's hurting... you just have to let it heal in its own time. What you CAN do is to take good care of yourself: eat, rest, stay close to loved ones. Do things that bring you joy. Revel in the smallest steps forward. You'll heal, things will get better. Trust. Love. Serve. Live.


20



Let's all go on a "complaining diet." See how long we can go without a complaint for a weekend. Repeat often.


9-15



Don’t worry about finding your person. Focus on finding your people.


15, 21



When it comes to judging your behavior at school/ sports/ work, ask: Was I fair? Was I kind? Did I put in the work? If the answers are all “Yes,” then rest well. If an answer is “No,” then fix it.


16



Ask “What are you going to teach ME?” Let him work on something to teach.


11



Read “Raising a Screen Smart Kid” by Julianna Miner before you consider giving him a phone.


10



Be extra careful when you’re parking or pulling out of a driveway. It’s hard to see little kids or pets.


16



Dating advice: If they like you, you’re gonna know. If they don’t, you’re gonna be confused.”


16, 21



Universal Studios


12-18



Sometimes you have to put aside how you feel about a person and objectively look at how their actions show how they feel about *you.*


16



Music, arts, words or dancing can have a profound effect on the spirit. Let's find something that gives you chills!


11-14



I wrestle with leaving the church but I want to save you a lifetime of feelings of unworthiness. It’s totally normal to feel like you’re not good enough. We all battle those kinds of insecurities, so the last thing we need is to be taught that God thinks it too. Know that in reality we are all precious, down to the subatomic level. So when you think you’re unworthy, shake it off! You belong in every room you enter.


13, 15, 21



Don’t confuse impulsive with courageous.


10, 14, 19, 21



Teach car maintenance: Adding air to tires, checking oil, etc.


13-17



This Coda is my creation. It’s what I wanted to accomplish as a parent. What you do with it is entirely up to you. I hope you never feel like you have to do the same. Make your own way. Make yourself proud. If you’re happy, I’m happy.


21



Universal Studios


12-18



Google earth app means there's always a globe at hand. Point out states, countries or oceans when we hear about them.


4-9



You’ll be finished with school soon. The most important thing I hope you learned is that there is still so much yet to learn.


21



Default to "nice guy." Meaning it should require something significant for you NOT to be nice. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Cut them (and yourself) some slack. Life is hard. We're all in this together.


12