If it makes you happy it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.


11, 14, 20



Kitchen Commandment: She who cooks the dinner shall not clean up from dinner. I don't want to raise any of you to take housework for granted. It's hard. It's unfair and not cool to expect anyone (parent, spouse, roommate, etc. )to wait on you.


7-18



Start a tradition of asking them to memorize and recite a poem or famous speech for a gift for Mother’s Day, Christmas, etc. Start small with the little ones, expand as they get older.


8



Begin again. Whether by choice or necessity, sometimes there’s no other option.


15, 21



Educate yourself. You can't solve a problem if you don't understand it.


14-21



“Your warmth can be an invitation that unlocks their own.” - Elizabeth Lesser. I love this quote because it’s so true that when you’re kind and genuine, people respond. They take it as a signal that you are a safe place for them to express themselves, which will enable a true connection to be formed. You both win when that happens.


15, 21



Make yourself a good hand. Don't wait to be asked, just jump in when you see a need. Wash a dish, make a bed, change a tire, help out a friend or a stranger whenever you can.


14-20



Inevitably you will make mistakes in your career. Someone will dress you down for it. It stings. But they are doing you a favor. Thank them for it. We all have to learn, and we can’t do that if our pride gets in the way. Be humble and accept constructive criticism.


16, 21



Plan a trip to New York City to see Hamilton.


15



“The only way out is to love yourself. That’s it. That’s all.” - Valerie Bertinelli


10, 13, 17, 21



Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


14, 18, 21



Make sure you always have Uber gift cards on hand for friends, emergencies or whatever.


15-18



“If you want to be holy, be kind”. -Frederick Buechner


14, 19, 21



Whether it’s a kid at school or a politician on tv, beware of someone who tries to blame the world’s problems on a minority or some other group of people who are different. It’s a cheap tactic to get people riled up and afraid.


13



Sometimes there’s nothing you can say or do to help someone feel better. In times like that, just make sure you don’t make it worse.


14, 18, 21



Your very existence is a miracle. Countless cosmic events and generations of ancestors had to come together in precisely the right way at precisely the right time for you to be here now. It’s an honor to be who you are. Act accordingly.


13, 15, 18, 20, 21



Keep stuff on hand for guests. Be ready to be a good host / hostess at any moment.


16-21



No one is ever really ready to be a parent. It’s definitely on the job training! But I’ll say this: If you’re prepared to put your family’s needs before your own, you’re as ready as anyone can be.


21



Trust yourself.


20



Ability is distributed equally across all demographics, geniuses, artists, musicians etc. are not more likely to be born in a rich community-but they are far more likely to emerge from one with their gift’s having been nurtured. Ability is evenly distributed but accessibility is not. How many lives could be saved if the brilliant surgeon never gets to college? It’s a core mission of mine to do my part to help change that so that all children can realize their dreams if they work for it. No locked gates!


12, 18, 21



Life doesn’t need to be perfect to be beautiful.


20



Sometimes the only thing you can do is to show up. Be there.


13, 15, 17, 21



Apollo 13 and The Martian Great movies about space, science, engineering, etc. Watch together.


12



Go to Montgomery County Fair


5-14



Use Shutterfly or something like it to make Christmas books and birthday books each year.


Infant-21



Listen to The Moth (storytelling) together.


15



Compassion: Acting with love when faced with another’s suffering.


16



Con-men (or women) appear perfect. They are good-looking, kind, flattering, etc. Most people are good. But be careful of those who seem to be too good.


15



Talk about how to speak up for themselves and others.


1Infant-12, 16, 21