If you don’t have anything intelligent to say on a subject it’s fine (encouraged) to say nothing. Listen. Learn.


20



Don’t confuse a broken dream for a broken future. Or a broken heart for a broken life.


13, 15, 17, 19, 21



A simple blessing to silently pray over someone: “May he (she) be healthy, May he be safe. O Lord bless him with peace and joy.” Pray for people you know, for strangers on the elevator, for teachers, world leaders, friends or foes, etc. It’s one way to make the world a better place, and it turns your heart closer to God.


15



Have somebody take him skiing. I never learned to ski but I hope he learns to ski or snowboard.


6-11



“It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to grieve. Because you can also live your life, and love your life, and be happy too.” Excellent advice from 9/11 survivor.


12, 15, 19



If you can’t afford to tip the server, you can’t afford to be there.


15



Be a good guest. Never arrive to a dinner or a party empty handed. Bring a gift: flowers, food, drink, etc.


18



Show up. Be there when people are counting on you. Be at the celebrations and the funerals. Be at work and school when you're supposed to be.


12-19



Never give unsolicited advice. Instead ask “How can I best support you?”


14, 20



Book “8 Candles and a Tree” about celebrating interfaith holidays.


7



Practice people skills: Firm handshake, introducing yourself, being courteous when encountering / being on receiving end of someone’s rude behavior, offering your seat (never sit while someone with gray hair, pregnant belly, any sort of injury or really anyone who is older or who works harder is standing.)


10



Do something that feeds your soul every day. Experience or create joy, even if just a small spark of it.


17



Be a safe place. Teach them to be a safe place too.


12



What’s the Mark Twain quote about it’s not what you don’t know that gets you into trouble it’s what you know for sure that just ain’t true.


13, 21



Teach how to carve a turkey.


15



“The beginning parts are always the scariest.” -Jackson Daily (kid reporter on Today Show.)


10, 12, 16



Enroll in cooking lessons. We'll need to find you someone who knows how to cook. (Don't tell mom I said that.)


14



“Human beings are linked, not ranked.” - Gloria Steinem (f*ck the patriarchy)


15



Practice "shaking off the sleepy." It's hard to wake up when your body is screaming for more sleep. If you practice, you'll get better. Get up, get in the shower and shake off the sleepy. It works!


6, 7, 13-15



Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


14



Some relationships (or jobs) are f*cked, and cannot be unf*cked. Release them and move on.


21



When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


2-4, 13, 15



1

There is a cost and a duty to everything we own. Rachel Maddow


16



Whether they’re young or old, try not to under-estimate people. Most people will impress the heck out of you.


15



Alka-Seltzer is great for a hangover or even better, take it before you go to bed after partying. Disclaimer I’m talking about a few drinks. For the love of everything holy, please don’t ingest insane amounts of alcohol at a time. Buzzed is fun, drunk is stupid. And dangerous. Never drive once you’ve had a drink or weed.


18



"Tough times don't last. Tough people do."


11-14



1

Intimacy is a feeling of safety. To let yourself be seen, touched, known, without defenses.


17, 21



Dress to people will listen to you, not look at you. (This is especially true at school and work.)


15, 18, 21



Thinking of asking her out? Want to apply for a job that sounds great? Remember you start off at “No.” You currently do not have a date with her. If you ask and she says no, you’ve lost nothing.


15, 17, 21