Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


14, 19



Walking at night during the wintertime remember to wear a bright scarf or something reflective. So many pedestrians get hit when it’s dark outside because they’re wearing dark colors and drivers can’t see them.


15, 20



You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. What’s something worth being hated for?


11, 14, 17, 21



Don’t worry about finding your person. Focus on finding your people.


15, 21



Uplift your friends and surround yourself with friends who uplift you. In person and online. Encourage each other to let your lights shine brightly. Never bully or steal someone’s joy.


11, 15, 18, 20



Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


12-15, 21



Most people are good. Some are bad. Many are crazy.


15, 21



Drinking doesn’t work like climbing a hill, it works like surfing waves. “More” is not always better. Once you feel tipsy, drinking more will make you feel *worse*. Remember “more alcohol will ruin my buzz.” Coast, recover, then okay to start again.


14. 15. 17. 18. 21



Read “Attack of the Black Rectangles” by Amy Sarid King.


12



Spend time with people you admire, in person and biographies, documentaries, novels and movies.


14-17, 21



Institute “Family Night” a screen-free night of games and fun and togetherness. Can use these times for conversations about things you want to address / teach. Maybe make theme nights and build around a lesson so it’s fun and enjoyable. Continue through school years.


4-6



change the wifi password often. Hold it hostage until chores are done. Work first, play later.


9-14



Key to a happy marriage: each of you must love and support the person in front of them. Not the person you married or the person you hope they will grow into. We all change and grow. Not all of it is for the better, especially our looks ha ha. We shouldn’t make our spouse feel obligated to stay the same person they were when we fell in love with them. In marriage as in business as in life: If you’re not growing you’re dying.


21



Surprise! You’re not perfect. No one is. Do your best, but don’t expect perfection from yourself or any other human, young or old. Have compassion...We’re all in this together and we need each other to be kind and encouraging.


17, 21



Keep stories about younger years to tell them later: You used to call yellow “lellow” etc. Ten years from now you think you’ll remember this stuff but you won’t.


2



Recipe for happiness that stands the test of time: Be who you are, and figure out how you are uniquely equipped to serve.


15, 21



Explore the magic of Deer Valley YMCA Camp


07-13



“If you want to be holy, be kind”. -Frederick Buechner


14, 19, 21



Don’t ask for anything until you’ve done what has been asked of you.


5



You are absolutely priceless. What someone thinks of you, whatever may happen to you, no matter who loves you (or rejects you), nothing can diminish your worth or your worthiness. You. Are. Priceless.


10, 14, 17



It’s hard to accept that the world can be so cruel and unfair, but sometimes accepting it and focusing on what part of it you CAN change is - I’ve learned - the key.


15



Sometimes (oftentimes) the truth is easier to find than to face.


14, 20



“When happy, be kind. When sad, be kind. When ever…be kind.” - Cory Booker


9, 12, 15, 19, 21



Ask them to name 2 current or historical figures that they admire and why (one man one woman).


6-18



When you feel like judging someone, try to resist the urge and get curious instead. There’s always a story.


16



You don’t have to lower your standards, just lower your walls.


12, 15, 21



Invest in a laminator, a label maker and a glue gun. You’ll be glad you did!


5



Let’s talk about how we can bless people - with what we have and by how we act.


7



“Whenever you think that some situation or some person is ruining your life, it’s actually you who are ruining your life. It’s such a simple idea. Feeling like a victim is a perfectly disastrous way to make go through life.” — Charlie Munger


13, 15, 19, 21



Affection is to be shared, never taken.


14