Learn how to sail together


12-15



Be teachable. If you walk around thinking you know it all, your career and relationships will suffer. Consider how much you have to learn and welcome any opportunity to learn. “Teach me” instead of “I don’t know.”


16



I wish I had heard this in my 20’s. https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRtFBvGr/


20



Practice sitting and standing "like a statue" to teach them how to be still. Start with a goal of 5 or 10 seconds, gradually move to 2 minutes. Same thing for "silent game" to teach them how to stay quiet when they need to. Bribery helps teaching this concept!


3-4



Every time your heart breaks, your vision gets better. You appreciate beauty and recognize and respond to others’ pain better.


12, 15, 18, 21



Create tech-free zones and times.


10, 11, 12, 13, 19, 21



Grandpa always said everything boils down to how you treat people. Always treating people with kindness and respect is the most important lesson he wanted to get across to us.


12-21



If you ever borrow someone’s car, return it with a full tank of gas.


20



Be sound. Keep fit. Act silly. Enjoy nature. Read books. Love freely. Find purpose. Hate Everton Travel often. Cook passionately Feel content. Antagonise dickheads. Ignore anxieties. Value mates. Celebrate life Be you. Saw his on social media and couldn’t have said it better. Apparently Everton is a soccer team.


15, 19



Check out O.School Originals for sex-ed resources.


14



No one knows what they’re doing. Just be kind and brave and curious. You don’t have to have it figured out.


17



Just love them. With all your might, them for who they are, and where they are. Forget about the other stuff.


15



Action is the antidote to anxiety.


12, 14, 17, 21



Visit Aunt Janet in Morehead City for Seafood Festival in October


2-99



“How we learn to hold what hurts shapes so much of who we are. What we choose to do with our pain defines us more than most things.“ -Chani Nicholas


11, 14, 17



Start the tradition of First Sunday dinners. On the first Sunday of the month, have a "mini-holiday" dinner. Invite family, friends. Use the nice dishes, make a big meal. Celebrate family.


4-18



Like me, you turn to food for comfort. That’s okay to a point, but it won’t help. That hole you’re trying to fill will just get deeper. So if you can’t or won’t stop eating for comfort please consider this suggestion: Do something creative first. Sing, write, paint, run, lift, act, improv, whatever. The hole will be so much more shallow when you go to try and fill it with food. Hopefully, eventually you’ll get to the point of staying in “creative mode” to feel better.


10, 12, 13, 16, 21



Considering taking meds for your mental health but concerned about the side effects? Consider the side effects of *not* taking them! Meds don’t turn you into someone you’re not, they lift the murky fog around your brain so you can be more yourself. It’s the depression that changes you. Meds just help you get rid of the fog.


18, 21



Which line of poetry would you get tattooed?


17



It’s okay if you don’t know how (or don’t want) to move on. Start with something easier…just don’t go back.


16



“Dress braver than you feel. Act braver than you feel.” - Ray


17



"The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that is wrong with the world." - Paul Farmer


15, 21



Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


14, 19



Have a yearly “review” right before school year. Raise allowance as appropriate. If they want more money, they’ll have to take on more responsibilities.


7-17



1

You don’t owe me a thing. Live your life as you will. I will always love you.


18, 21



Action is the antithesis of anxiety.


18



You don’t have to choose to be single forever to enjoy being single for now.


17, 21



Birds of a feather flock together


14



If they’re not doing anything dangerous, illegal or immoral, let them be. Give them space and independence. (Just first define dangerous/ illegal/ immoral. Then remind them that you are here and would love to hear about anything they want to share.)


14