90 seconds or less. No one wants to hear you talk for more than that. (In a personal setting like giving a toast.)


17, 21



Don’t let someone have to tell you twice that they don’t want you. Nothing good comes from hanging on after that.


15, 21



One of the most important things I can teach you is to help you learn how to deal with big feelings without resorting to destructive behavior or violence. Everyone on the planet will experience loss, disappointment, grief, heartbreak, betrayal, etc. Tools to deal with these feelings: counseling, journaling, art, music, exercise, meditation, breathing exercises, yoga, being in nature, talking with friends, joining a support group, movement like dancing or skating, singing, acting, anthropomorphic dialogue with your emotions, naming your emotions and describe how they physically feel in your body. Asking the emotion what it needs you to know.


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Walking at night during the wintertime remember to wear a bright scarf or something reflective. So many pedestrians get hit when it’s dark outside because they’re wearing dark colors and drivers can’t see them.


15, 20



Give him a copy of The Secret Lives of Great Composers by Elizabeth Lunday.


14



“Your life unfolds in proportion to your courage.” -Danielle Le Port


15, 18



Don’t be a dick.


21



Check out teen life coach Coaching with Will.


13



Colin Powell’s 13 rules: 1. It ain't as bad as you think. It will look better in the morning. 2. Get mad, then get over it. 3. Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls, your ego goes with it. 4. It can be done. 5. Be careful what you choose. You may get it. 6. Don't let adverse facts stand in the way of a good decision. 7. You can't make someone else's choices. You shouldn't let someone else make yours. 8. Check small things. 9. Share credit. 10. Remain calm. Be kind. 11. Have a vision. Be demanding. 12. Don't take counsel of your fears or naysayers. 13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.


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Sometimes it’s easier to describe what a thing is *not* than to describe what it is.


14, 21



Sad but important fact: You’ll never be enough for some people. Never. -Chasten Buttigieg


18



Have them practice making trade offs based on their financial priorities. For example: Pedicure or movie?


9



“All the best things in life live on the other side of fear.” - Will Smith’s grandmother.


20



Watch the local news together.


12



If you don’t know where to begin, picture where you want it to end, and work it backwards.


15, 21



“Abhor what is evil. Hold fast to what is good.”


10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 21



Focus on the lesson not the pain.


14, 21



Check out Long Lake Summer Camp in NY. Theater, the arts, etc.


12, 13, 14, 15, 16



Addiction is when you can’t get through the day without something. It’s not that you need to feel high, it’s that you can’t live without what gets you high. Humans are all wired to be at risk for addiction


13, 15, 18, 20



From our beautiful Grandma Marie: Go easy on the makeup, get serious about skincare. Don’t skimp, use good-quality products on your face and neck. And remember SUNSCREEN on face, neck and hands every day!


16



It’s not fair to resent someone for being exactly who they are.


17, 21



Don’t waste your life’s purpose worrying about what other people think about you.


12, 15, 21



Talk to him about applying to Democracy Summer program started by Rep. J. Raskin.


18



Teach them how to eat a chicken wing in one bite


12



Participate in an exchange program - either through hosting or traveling yourself & immerse yourself in the new culture


17



Just let a sweet moment be. There’s a time for jokes or small talk, but sometimes silence is best.


15,21



• you can't make anyone love you • not every relationship is meant to last forever • sometimes two good people can make one bad relationship.


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Puberty is like putting a 12 year old in the pilot seat of a fighter jet. A total sh*t show at first, then better but still erratic and dramatic until they really get a feel for the speed and the pressure, the gauges, etc. They’ll learn when to question or to trust their instincts. Tell him that he’ll fly this jet for the rest of his life and it will always be dangerous because it’s an effing jet, but he will learn how to fly it expertly. He’ll do good, have fun, accomplish missions and refuel.


12



Plan a few screen-free weekends every year. (Reticket until 16.)


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Watch movie Sky Walk (2019) it’s about a school paper.


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