Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


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Resist the urge to give unsolicited advice. Wait…this entire thing is unsolicited advice!


15



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



Dating advice: If they like you, you’re gonna know. If they don’t, you’re gonna be confused.”


16, 21



Look into Rustic Pathways to see the world and do some good.


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1

Just show up. That’s all we can really control. Show up, (don’t run) and take it from there. You got this.


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To my boys: Personally I believe the boy / man should pay when out on a date. Always be prepared to pay - but sometimes a girl / woman wants to pay or split the check. Don’t push back on that. Make sure she knows it would be your pleasure to pay because you want to show her a good time and spoil her, but that you understand that paying a check doesn’t put her in your debt. Instead, your motto should be “If you’re comfortable, I’m comfortable.” And that goes for a lot of categories including sex/ physical contact. And to my girls: Always be prepared to pay, offer to pay often. It’s a sad fact that some men feel they’re owed something if they spring for dinner. On a date you are never obligated to do or say anything you don’t want to. Never.


16, 21



Success = liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.


14, 17, 21



Learning to keep your composure and maintain a respectful tone when you’re frustrated/angry/afraid/upset, etc. is a skill. PRACTICE it.


4, 5, 6, 7, 10, 12, 14, 16, 19, 21



Pray for the courage to be yourself.


10, 13, 15, 17, 21



When the child is feeling upset or out of control, that is not the time to teach a lesson. Share your calm, be a safe place for them. When they’re feeling better, THEN teach the lesson.


1, 2, 3, 4



Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


12-15, 21



It’s hard to want something and not have it. Kids have to learn how to sit with that.


3-17



Life is difficult...Focus on the joy.


16, 20



You have to learn how to not start, and how to stop abruptly when you’re turned on. Doesn’t matter how much you want it, nothing happens unless she gives enthusiastic consent, and nothing continues if she were to withdraw consent for any reason or at any time. Look up the making tea analogy for consent. It’s perfect.


14, 15, 16, 17, 18



There is nothing “basic” about basic human dignity. Never treat a person as though they are put on this earth for your amusement. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity because we’re all human beings. No matter their age, looks, status, even past wrongdoing, everyone deserves to be treated with dignity.


14



Soap and water go a long way towards fixing many problems.


12, 19



“Your life unfolds in proportion to your courage.” -Danielle Le Port


15, 18



Plants eat sunlight. Eat mostly plants.


14, 17, 21



Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


14



Key to a happy marriage: each of you must love and support the person in front of them. Not the person you married or the person you hope they will grow into. We all change and grow. Not all of it is for the better, especially our looks ha ha. We shouldn’t make our spouse feel obligated to stay the same person they were when we fell in love with them. In marriage as in business as in life: If you’re not growing you’re dying.


21



You should feel safe with friends. They shouldn’t try to get you hurt or in trouble. Anyone who makes you feel unsafe is not your friend.


8-15



Someone I admire is __________. Talk about someone you admire and why. Ask them to do the same. Do this often as you can. Reticket through age 18.


4



Hold fast to what is good. (1 Thessalonians 5:21)


10, 15, 21



Let’s find an activity where you can work with your hands


11



A friend of mine lost her son in a horrible accident. She wrote “I don’t believe God caused this but I do believe he can redeem it.” That has stayed with me for years. God doesn’t cause suffering... He showers those who suffer with his grace.


18



Psalm 37:3 “Do good and trust in the Lord.” That pretty much covers it.


9, 15, 21



Re-Read Tim Russert's Big Russ and Me.


14



Find what you love Do what you love Be what you love Live what you love Love what you love and never look back ... Except to love.


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