Yes, you’re beautiful. But that’s not ALL you are. And it isn’t all that’s expected of you. Surely you could “get by” on your looks. Is that what you want for yourself?


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Things are rarely perfect, but things that are less-than-ideal aren't all bad to the same degree. Let's talk about making buckets for "not ideal but I can put up with it" and "deal-breaker." Works for all kinds of situations. Another variation of this is to grade the suckiness of a situation on a scale of 1-10. Have them decide at what point action is needed vs. just putting up with it. This one works well for hunger. Yes, you're hungry, but on a scale of 1-10, how hungry? It also works for relationships! There are plenty of things about a spouse that are less than ideal, but how many are true deal-breakers? Teach them to understand the difference.


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“The more you sweat, the less you bleed.” True in boxing and in life. Put the work in. No shortcuts.


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Remember this blessing. You are whole. You are lacking nothing. There is nothing that you must achieve, accomplish, or earn. There is no station of graduate, or married, or children, or partner, or famous, or 120 pounds, or, you know, 4% body fat. There is nothing that you must earn, attain, or accomplish to prove your worthiness. You will learn and grow and change. That's part of being human. But there is nothing about you, there is nothing about your worth that is different on any day of your life. No matter what, no matter when, you are precious, and you are whole. You are safe. You are sound. You are secure.


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Spend time with people you admire, in person and biographies, documentaries, novels and movies.


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Philippians 4: 11-13


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Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


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Give your all on the job, from your first day to your last day there. If you’re all caught up on your work help someone else with theirs.


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Do something that feeds your soul every day. Experience or create joy, even if just a small spark of it.


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The app "Bark" detects messaging containing cyber-bullying, sexting, signs of depression or suicidal thoughts, etc.


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Awesome game we did at preschool - play I SPY. Try with objects or emotions, such as "I spy something sad" or "I spy something joyful." To help him learn empathy.


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I don’t remember much about my grandmother (Marie) but I recall her hands. Her ring fingers had a funny curve to them, bowed in a little at the top. My ring fingers do the same thing. I think of her every time I notice it.


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Read Big Magic by Liz Gilbert. Re-read every 5-10 years.


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When you’re trying to make a positive change and you get sidetracked- don’t fret. Get right back to it as soon as possible. If you backslide into a bad habit, or blow your diet, etc. start back eating right with your next meal (not the next year/ month/week or even next day.) It’s not the falling off the wagon that hurts your progress, it’s the STAYING off the wagon. Everyone flubs-up sometimes. Don’t quit striving toward your goal because you slipped up. Get right back to it!!


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Slip and Slide party!


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Help him practice having tense conversations without getting a tone of voice.


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Anyone who asks you to violate your values doesn’t deserve your allegiance.


16, 21



Check out Long Lake Summer Camp in NY. Theater, the arts, etc.


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Cut people some slack, everyone is entitled to a bad day.


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Let's all go on a "complaining diet." See how long we can go without a complaint for a weekend. Repeat often.


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Google Taylor Swift contrast Kim Kardashion at 2024 Superbowl. Good vibes are always better than “cool.” Show up. Dog park energy. Forget trying to look cool.


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Everything not saved will be lost. This is true for documents in Word and in life.


16



Just for the record, I didn’t vote for Trump. I want my great-grandchildren to know that.


18



Buy life insurance when you're young.


21



Start a vegetable garden.


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Jazz in the Garden free outdoor concerts at National Gallery of Art. Fridays during summer months.


7



Life isn’t a straight line, it’s so much more complex than that! Good things, bad things, boring or interesting things are all always happening. And always changing. So are you. And that’s good.


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Remember when you’re faced with bullies, jerks and people who say bad things , follow advice from the Obama's: "When they go low we go high."


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Take a CPR class together. Emphasize importance of staying certified ( or making a habit of watching an online course every year on the same day, like the day after Thanksgiving or something like that.


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Parent the way you want your children to behave. Compassion, patience. Loving.


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