People will speak or act in all kinds of unpleasant ways. Stay calm and kind.


14-21



Stand up (or sit up) straight in photos. Don’t slouch or lean. (You can touch or be close but don’t lean in.)


12, 14, 21



Read Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson together.


17



Teach them about the law and how it applies to them: Here's what happens if you hurt someone, steal, drive drunk, use or sell drugs, sexting, etc.


12



Have family game nights this winter.


9



ADHD hack for studying or projects- Leave yourself notes about where you left off.


13, 21



Replace “but” with “and.” “I love you but...” Becomes “I love you and that’s why...” etc.


9



Paradoxical Commandments by Kent Keith.


19



We’re born full of love. Life is about choosing where you want to put it. -xo


15, 19, 21



You’re getting stronger by the day. Use your strength to protect, never to intimidate. Abusers and bullies are cowards and just the worst of men.


14, 17, 21



There are always blessings hidden within heartbreak: a friend you would never have met otherwise, an opportunity that would never have come up, an experience, an encounter, a promotion, etc. Always look for the blessings.


9, 11, 18, 21



“All the best things in life live on the other side of fear.” - Will Smith’s grandmother.


20



Let’s look for examples of bravery.


8



Look into Rustic Pathways to see the world and do some good.


15



1

It's a skill to learn how to love people the way they need to be loved. I highly recommend reading the Five Love Languages.


18, 21



Be mindful of avoiding the “race to nowhere.” No sense in stressing over school and work. We get one life!! LIVE it! Work hard at what you love. There will be seasons of busting your butt, and that’s good. Just make sure it’s in pursuit of something you’re passionate about. And I hope you take seasons of rest, too. Time to recharge, reflect and decide what’s next for you.


14, 16, 18, 21



Ask them to name 2 current or historical figures that they admire and why (one man one woman).


6-18



Check out teen life coach Coaching with Will.


13



Rock those babies to sleep as often as you can.


0, 1, 2



“You have to meet people where they are. Sometimes, you have to leave them there.” -Iyanla Vanzant


21



Be intentional. You don’t get to choose what they remember.


1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



Check out Harmonia School on Mill St Music Art Theatre


6



Conspiracy theories... Where do I begin? They’re pure sh*t. They are fueled by fear and ignorance, usually peddled by people who have an agenda.


12, 16



If you’re having trouble finding your passion, read biographies and memoirs of people from all walks of life. There are so many worlds out there! You’ll find one that excites you, where your unique talents and skill set can shine.


19



Surround yourself with people, places and spaces that feed your spirit. At the very least, avoid those that drain your spirit.


17



Tragedy may occur in your life, but it does not need to define your life. YOU get to do that...through the choices you make. _______I know you’ll make good ones. xo


19



“When it comes to consequences, don’t speak what you won’t serve.” Meaning don’t threaten any punishment you’re not willing to enforce. This is helpful in terms of teaching the child a lesson and also an important lesson in not shooting yourself in the foot. (I took away your tv one day you were home on a snow day. Bad idea. That punishment was against my own interest! I got no work done.


2



I heard a song today, “I love you to the bone” by Sammy Copley. It’s a beautiful story of a lifelong love. It’s my prayer for you that your spouse will have that song played at your funeral after you shared a 75 year- long happy marriage. It’s my prayer that your life is filled with love and laughter, and most importantly a partner who grows with you in all good things. And that you love each other to the bone.


21



“I don’t know what I think until I write about it.” - Joan Didion


15