Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


11



Start “home economics” school with them. Laundry, cleaning, cooking, how to change a diaper, comfort a baby, soothe a toddler, what's involved in caring for pets, budgeting for food, keeping track of maintenance schedules for humans, pets, cars and machines. Engage with guests, be a good host, etc. Know when and how to tell someone to GTFO of the house (racist or misogynistic speech, etc.) Every kid needs to learn the art and science of home management. Look for and point out examples in books and movies of good home science skills.


5, 8, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 21



“A recipe for being mistaken: 1. Dislike someone who's often right. 2. Never agree with someone you dislike.” ——- Paul Graham


16



Read Admiral William McRaven’s autobiography Sea Stories.


17



Be kind. Be brave.


5-10



Read (or listen to) The Greatest Generation by Tom Brokaw together as a family. It's broken up into small vignettes so it's easy to get through bit by bit.


15



Don’t waste your time with anyone who doesn’t love you for exactly who you are. Move on, because there is someone out there who will!


17



Just focus on shining on your own terms. Your shine is not dependent on anyone or anything else.


15



Start the tradition of First Sunday dinners. On the first Sunday of the month, have a "mini-holiday" dinner. Invite family, friends. Use the nice dishes, make a big meal. Celebrate family.


4-18



“Love is giving your heart without expectation.” - Dan Fogelman


16, 21



Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


14



Discuss difference between foods that taste good vs. foods that make you FEEL good.


12-14



Sometimes, no matter how great a thing is it can’t make up for what it’s not.


14, 19, 21



“Dress braver than you feel. Act braver than you feel.” - Ray


17



If you don’t have the words, borrow them. Send a song or a poem. As long as the sentiment is yours, the vowels and consonants don’t need to be.


13, 16. 21



The problems with pornography: When you’re young and have yet formed a basis for healthy and mutually satisfying sexual relationships, your brain doesn’t know what to do with that input. It becomes part of your brain, imprinted as normal or the way sex should be. When you’re older, the brain can see something that’s outrageous and recognize it and discard it. Also it’s incredibly misogynistic, will do horrible things for the way you see women. While some is fairly harmless and totally normal, even too much of a good thing is a bad thing. Too much of a bad thing is disastrous.


11, 12, 13, 14, 15



Go out of your way to part on good terms whenever possible, in all circumstances.


18



Practice being embarrassed. Tell embarrassing stories. Help them learn how to deal with the sensation.


9



Go to Montgomery County Fair


5-14



Check out O.School Originals for sex-ed resources.


14



Summers in Ireland and UK Drama camps? I could work from there while he did his thing.


12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17



Keep in mind the human tendency (rightly or wrongly) to think “how it ends is how it was”. Could be a work shift, a class, a relationship, etc. try to end on a good note.


16, 21



Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


14, 19



Love then when they least deserve it because that’s when the need it the most.


3, 13, 17



Institute “Family Night” a screen-free night of games and fun and togetherness. Can use these times for conversations about things you want to address / teach. Maybe make theme nights and build around a lesson so it’s fun and enjoyable. Continue through school years.


4-6



Summer concerts at Wolftrap- get good seats so they can really get a sense of the experience.


13-16



Always keep a clean rag within arm’s reach in the car. You never know when you might need to clean-up a spill or smash a spider while driving 50mph.


16



Check out School of Rock (Vienna) or Bach to Rock.


9



Talk about how to "go the extra mile."


14



People will always have complicated feelings about the people they once loved. We’re human beings, we can’t expect emotions to be like an on/off switch. Complicated feelings/mixed emotions regarding an ex is to be expected. What’s important is what they decide.


17, 21