When making decisions remember HALT: are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired? (Or ecstatic) Give yourself time to be in a good place. Ask yourself if you’re choosing something because it’s going to bring you closer to being as authentically yourself or are you trying to meet someone else’s expectations? This is not to say you won’t need to compromise and put others first (spouse/ family.) That happens a lot in marriage. No, I mean ask yourself if you’re trying to prove something or are you being true to yourself. Hope that helps.


18, 21



“Success is liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” - Maya Angelou


13, 15, 21



No matter how smart you are or how much you know, you still don’t know everything. ALWAYS be willing to learn and to change your position when faced with new information or perspective.


15, 20



Face it. Whatever it is, show up with your most powerful self. Make decisions from a point of power, not fear. Sometimes the answer is to retreat, care for the injured, mourn the losses. Strategize. Prepare and then attack.


14. 15, 17, 18, 19, 21



Start the tradition of First Sunday dinners. On the first Sunday of the month, have a "mini-holiday" dinner. Invite family, friends. Use the nice dishes, make a big meal. Celebrate family.


4-18



Enroll in a CPR course. Re-certify every year.


13



Intimacy is a feeling of safety. To let yourself be seen, touched, known, without defenses.


17, 21



There is so much darkness in the world - keep pushing back against it every way you can. Be a force for good.


14, 16, 21



It's very important to me, the idea of the scale of good and bad, of beauty and suffering. I think we should do everything we can to increase the beauty and to take away from the suffering. We have to work hard to tip the scale in the direction of good.


1Infant-14



Any thought about self-harm is like a “check engine” light going off for your brain. Seek professional help. You will recover.


12, 14, 15, 17, 19, 21



Remember: “C’s get degrees.” Don’t tie yourself in knots over grades.


17, 18



Happiness comes from giving and helping, not buying and having.


14, 19



Ask “Is your belly full?” Instead of saying “Clean your plate!” Have them stay in touch with hunger/food connection.


3



Staying calm while under pressure or when you could scream in frustration - that is most of the battle. Sometimes the fact that you stayed calm qualifies as a win.


16, 21



You are a miracle. Take good care of yourself: Mind, body and soul.


21



“If you can’t figure something out, figure out how to figure it out.” - Paul Graham


18



Harm springs from excess.


12



Build a backyard adventure camp


8



Resist the urge to give unsolicited advice. Wait…this entire thing is unsolicited advice!


15



Girls: does he put in the effort even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable for him?


16, 20, 21



Remind them they’re safe to feel whatever they’re feeling.


2, 12, 21



You will never have to hustle for your self-worth. You are worthy of love and respect simply because you exist. Same goes for every other human.


16



Talk to them about how dangerous it is to buy pills online. Fentanyl is ubiquitous and lethal in small doses. Never never take a pull that wasn’t prescribed or purchased legally.


12



Teen years are a whole other ballgame. Find a community and stay up with trends and news. Check out the website Raising Teens Today.


12



Follow love and kindness wherever they may take you and you’ll be fine. xoxo


13, 17, 21



You are not your thoughts. Focus more on your choices / actions.


17



Discuss the definition And ramifications of sexual misconduct (harassment, consent, etc.)


12



Being accountable means saying that I was responsible for making sure this did not happen - but it did happen. I accept the blame and an prepared to incur the consequences. I will work earnestly to earn back your trust and confidence. The opposite of accountability is to make excuses or blame someone else for your mistake.


10, 18



Ask “What are you going to teach ME?” Let him work on something to teach.


11



Keep stuff on hand for guests. Be ready to be a good host / hostess at any moment.


16-21



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