Watch TED talk on Rejection Therapy: “What I learned from 100 days of rejection | Jia Jiang”


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Always hold the door open for the next person.


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Girls: does he put in the effort even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable for him?


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Keep in mind the human tendency (rightly or wrongly) to think “how it ends is how it was”. Could be a work shift, a class, a relationship, etc. try to end on a good note.


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Throw some love at a problem.


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Philippians 4: 11-13


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Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


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Stupid is as stupid does - it’s not something you “are” it’s something you do.


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Ask “What are you going to teach ME?” Let him work on something to teach.


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Be intentional. You don’t get to choose what they remember.


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Self-care is active not passive. (Zoning-out on the couch or sleeping all day isn’t self-care.)


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Be a safe place. Teach them to be a safe place too.


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Discuss difference between foods that taste good vs. foods that make you FEEL good.


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When COVID started my first thought was “Holy sh*t Trump is going to cancel the 2020 election because of pandemic.” Thank God I was wrong.


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Guard your health and fitness as if it were your most valuable possession. (It is.)


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Change is scary. But scary doesn’t equal bad. I don’t know what it’s going to look like but I know you will figure it out. You’re going to be okay no matter what curveballs you’re faced with. Stay calm. Be kind and respectful to everyone and every thing, including (especially) yourself. xoxo


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IMPORTANT: If you borrow money from someone pay it back as soon as possible. In full. If you borrow an item, return it in excellent condition. I’d say if you borrow a car, return it with a full tank of gas but hopefully by the time you’re driving there won’t be any combustible engines. So return it fully charged!


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Poems are great tools to help them to read, recite, practice handwriting, and illustrate.


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When something is upsetting you...Name it...Take a deep breath...Imagine holding it gently in your hands. (This is a reminder to use this visualization myself and to teach it to you. I want to give you as many tools as I can to help you learn to cope with negative emotions in a healthy way.)


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“You will use up everything you got trying to give people what they want.” —- Nina Simone


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Adopting a “do it right now” mentality has done wonders for my organization


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We struggle so much when we don’t know ourselves. Are you a thinker (creative, big picture) or a doer (meticulous, task-oriented.) Both are great by the way.


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When you’re in a disagreement with someone or feel you’ve been wronged, it’s helpful to remember who the other person is. Are they someone of integrity? (If they’re your friend I bet they are.) Remember then, that even though they may have done something to hurt you, they were likely believed their actions were doing (or at least trying to do) the right thing. People sometimes get it wrong. Or they don’t have all the facts. Or their mind is just somewhere else. The pain you may feel from a perceived slight is probably not intentional, but even if it is, try to forgive and let it go. We’re all just doing the best we can.


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When making decisions or setting goals etc, approach from the perspective of your truest self. That’s integrity.


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“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” - Winston Churchill


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Sometimes it just takes a while to catch on. I had to watch Game of thrones 3 or 4 times before I could keep track of all the characters and subplots. Record your lectures so you can replay them a few times.


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The "work" in "relationships take work" should be like the "work" it takes to go to the beach. “Sure, you gotta pack food, beverages, drive there, park, and set up... But you get to the beach


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Sometimes procrastination is part of the process. Eventually though, doing the thing is easier than stressing over it or hiding from it.


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Motivation: Just start. Two minutes. You don’t need to feel good to get going, you need to get going to give yourself a chance to feel good.


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