Remember that whoever you’re grieving would only want the best for you.


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Be intentional. You don’t get to choose what they remember.


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I promise I will never snoop. No matter how curious I am, I will not violate your privacy. But if I ever think you may be in danger I will break any promise and any law I have to in order to keep you safe.


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Check into Brilliant.org for STEM activities.


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My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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If it’s the right thing, if something needs to be done… Make yourself do it. You’re never going to “feel like it.” Practice daily with things big and / or small without complaining.


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It’s very easy to wander into trouble- not usually easy to wander out of it.


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When you bring home a new baby, make sure your older kid(s) hear you talking to it the way you talk to them: “I’m sorry Baby I can’t hold you right now, I’m going to play with Sibling.” It makes it a lot easier to tell Siblings that you can’t give them attention right now because Baby needs you. Less resentment, etc.


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What does it mean to grow up? Sacrifice- When you put someone else’s needs before your own. Responsibility- When you can be counted on to do what’s right and also to do what has to be done. Trustworthiness- You keep your word.Sincerity - You are true to yourself and don’t pretend in order to fit in. It’s about choices and actions and deciding what you value and then building a life around those values.


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Some men think if they just act like a total $@!#% then people will assume they’re uber intelligent. Just because someone is scary it doesn’t mean he’s scary smart.


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“People speak of hope as if it is this delicate, ephemeral thing made of whispers and spider's webs. It's not. Hope has dirt on her face, blood on her knuckles, the grit of the cobblestones in her hair, and just spat out a tooth as she rises for another go.” -unknown


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Sometimes good people aren’t a good match. It’s better for both of you if you’re honest with yourself and with them.


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Self-care is active not passive. (Zoning-out on the couch or sleeping all day isn’t self-care.)


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Let go of things that aren’t good for you. Anger, fear, prejudice, obsession, grudges, snark, etc.


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Book “8 Candles and a Tree” about celebrating interfaith holidays.


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Watch YouTube video on how to administer an Epi-pen injection. You have friends with allergies you may need to know how to do this.


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What problem do you want to solve in the world?


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Consider the source. Consider whose company they are in. You may not know much about issue xyz but look and see who endorses them. If people you trust place trust in them.


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“You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are.” -Mr. Rogers


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There are all kinds of parenting and mommy blogs with good resources. A quick Google search will get you started.


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The version of you that will handle whatever problem comes your way will be born into existence in the moment when it happens. Trust your future self to handle future challenges.


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We’re born full of love. Life is about choosing where you want to put it. -xo


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Watch “The Sandlot” together. Great story about friendship and showing up for each other.


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The thing about hiding is you’re always worried you’ll be see, caught, or found out. It takes a toll. I hope you never hide from who you are, or feel like you have to fake it to be liked. I will always accept you as you are, and I hope to raise you so you accept yourself (and others) as well.


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Don’t waste your time with anyone who doesn’t love you for exactly who you are. Move on, because there is someone out there who will!


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Stupid is as stupid does - it’s not something you “are” it’s something you do.


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You don’t have to keep it together. Let the tears come. Feel the loss. The big feelings never last long, they are a storm you can weather. Then the sky is brighter afterwards. Grief is medicine when expressed, poison when suppressed.


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First date going extremely well? Thinking u might score? Slow down. A woman always wants to feel like she’s worth waiting for.


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Cotillion and other social clubs abound in our area. They usually start around 5th or 6th grade. start looking into what might be a good fit. Lay the ground work that they will attend.


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