Learn how to release energy consciously, or you’ll end up releasing it unconsciously onto your loved ones in a negative way like yelling or arguing. Breathe, sing, shout, cry, sweat, play, bake, whatever floats your boat!


1-21



Pretty much everything boils down to looking for love, its many forms. Look in good (creative) places. Avoid looking for love in bad (destructive) places.


15, 17, 19, 21



Watch the local news together.


12



Start saving money early. Save as much as you can. There are plenty of things worth spending your money on, but be mindful about your money - Don’t p*ss it away.


15, 20



Don’t stay down too long.


16, 19, 21



Practice road-rage roll playing. People are NUTS! It's hard to imagine how you'll react when someone gets aggressive with you. Let's practice staying calm when someone is shouting and in your face.


15-17



“Dress braver than you feel. Act braver than you feel.” - Ray


17



I’m cool with “C”s. Do good work but don’t put too much pressure yourself.


14



Professor Scott Galloway’s advice: Paraphrasing his standard wedding toast: “1. Express affection and desire. Everyone wants to be wanted. It’s healthy and it is part of what makes your relationship singular. 2. Never let your wife / girlfriend be hungry or cold. Two thirds of the really awful arguments you’ll have it’s because someone is hungry or cold. Carry blankets and protein bars. (You’re welcome.) 3. Don’t keep score. Decide what kind of friend / son / daughter / spouse / employee / human being you want to be, and practice being that. Put the scorecard away.”


21



Theme: Dignity


11



You’re gonna be misunderstood a lot. Some people just won’t like you. It’s okay. Wish them well and let it go.


10, 13, 16, 21



“First things first!” It’s a constant struggle to get out of the house or complete a task. Hammer home “first things first!” After they’re dressed (or whatever task) THEN they can have screen time or playtime free-time, etc.


4



Practice being embarrassed. Tell embarrassing stories. Help them learn how to deal with the sensation.


9



The opposite of addiction is connection. Genuine connection can take lots of forms.


14, 17, 19, 21



Read maps.


9-14



Sometimes progress is slow - Keep working. Sometimes change is swift - hang on!


16



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



Happiness comes from giving and helping, not buying and having.


14, 19



Led Zeppelin, Queen, The Who, Lynyard Skynard. Listen with headphones, listen alone, listen with friends. So many more good bands but if you start with these you’ll be well on your way.


15, 17, 21



You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. What’s something worth being hated for?


11, 14, 17, 21



Change the furniture around in your dorm, apartment or bedroom every once in a while. It’s an easy way to break up a timeline like for a holiday a season or after a breakup, etc.


18



Mackinac Island trip


10



We all have dark thoughts and moods every once in a while. That’s part of being human. But any sustained ideation or inclination to hurt yourself or someone else is a red flag and needs mental health intervention.


12, 14, 17, 21



You always have a choice. Always.


15, 19, 21



It’s when the sh*t hits the fan that real discipleship begins.


21



Wintergreen snow sledding trip.


6



Talk about how to speak up for themselves and others.


1Infant-12, 16, 21



Plan a neighborhood "Winter Olympics" for snow days. Create indoor and outdoor events.


8



“The flower does not dream of the bee. It blossoms


15