Highly recommend book about math and multiplication techniques:“The Best of Times” by Greg Tang.


10



Don’t worry about finding your person. Focus on finding your people.


15, 21



I’ve stopped worrying about you being able to make your way through life. You’re not even 8 years old and I can see you’re going to be just fine. You’re smart, kind, curious, hilarious and so very lovable. I worry about your safety, I stress about your health, but I don’t worry about your character. I’m so proud of you, and I love watching you grow.


14



C.S. Lewis books. (Children’s and adult.)


12, 21



Talk about how to act respectfully and be inclusive of children with disabilities and facial deformities, etc.


5-10



Life is hard. But it's not so hard you can't figure it out. You're going to be fine. xoxo


11-21



Read “Lighter” by Yung Pueblo. Read it every year.


17, 19, 21



That trope “everything happens for a reason” is, I think, b.s. But I absolutely agree that you can find meaning in anything good or bad.


17



Explain the concept: "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."


6



Purpose is more important than happiness. Having a purpose (or looking for it) will save you. (And sometimes finding a *new* purpose is what you need.)


16, 21



“If the pain was deep you will have to let it go many times.” Yung Pueblo from book Lighter


15, 18, 21



Your great-great grandmother was a seamstress at Marshall Fields. Her husband was a firefighter in Chicago. The immigrated from County Wexford in Ireland.


10



I forget who said it but I love it: “I don’t know what I think until I write it down.” Paper and pen. Write. Keep it or burn it whatever you like. Journal or make a list or bullet points or narrative…whatever. Just write.


15, 21



When you meet someone for the first time try to clear your mind of any assumptions about physical appearance. Race, gender, age, handicap/disability, etc.


17, 21



It's a skill to learn how to love people the way they need to be loved. I highly recommend reading the Five Love Languages.


18, 21



Just for the record, I didn’t vote for Trump. I want my great-grandchildren to know that.


18



1

Go as a family to local high school musical productions.


7-18



Drills (Writing pages of lines, grammar games,etc) Contractions, pronouns, commonly misspelled words, homophones like their and they’re, etc.) Drill drill drill! Written communication is so important and a simple mistake could cost big points at work.)


12



Just because someone is an a-hole it doesn’t mean they’re wrong.


17, 21



Help him practice having tense conversations without getting a tone of voice.


15



change the wifi password often. Hold it hostage until chores are done. Work first, play later.


9-14



Go to College results. Org to look at graduation rates. How likely is a rising freshman at that school to stick it out and graduate in 4 years? HUGE variation, it should factor in their decision.


16



Rent kayaks.


14-16



Intimacy is a feeling of safety. To let yourself be seen, touched, known, without defenses.


17, 21



Be a safe place. Teach them to be a safe place too.


12



The thing about behavior is that if you practice you get better. That goes for good behavior and bad behavior. The more you lie, cheat, etc. the better u get. Decide What kind of behavior you want to be good at and then practice practice


7



There is a cost and a duty to everything we own. Rachel Maddow


16



Time management skills. Look for current resources. Teach about making lists when you're feeling overwhelmed. Start with listing 5 to-do's. Tackle the top 3 of those. Then reassess. New priorities? If no, keep going down the list. If yes, add them to the list in whatever order of importance.


12



Offer gifts to the Lord. Maybe it's your school work, or your career, or the kid you raise, or your life in general. Wrap it up and make it a present to the Lord.


9-15