Sometimes there’s nothing you can say or do to help someone feel better. In times like that, just make sure you don’t make it worse.


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Spread kindness like confetti.


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Read J.R.R. Tolkien's The Hobbit together


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You can’t selectively numb feelings. The inclination to drink, use, shop, gamble, etc. is real but it’s a lie that it will make you feel better. Numbing makes this much, much worse. So feel! The good, the bad, the scary. Talk about your feelings, write about them or create something from your feelings. This is how to process in a healthy way.


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Girls: does he put in the effort even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable for him?


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Be present. Don’t turn every conversation into a lesson. They stay in their rooms so much because they feel safe there. They’re tired and stressed out and managing a lot of change.


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When you feel like giving up, rest. But then keep going! So many good things ahead. So many people that are meant to be in your life who you haven’t met yet.


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If you have to pretend to be someone else to get or keep a relationship or job, etc. then that relationship/job is not for you!


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Are you proud of the work you did today? Were you respectful and kind? Did you tell the truth and look out for the little ones? If so, I’m happy. I don’t care one bit about grades.


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Surprise! You’re not perfect. No one is. Do your best, but don’t expect perfection from yourself or any other human, young or old. Have compassion...We’re all in this together and we need each other to be kind and encouraging.


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“There’s a part of me that’s a part of you” said a painter whose name I can’t remember. I don’t think he was talking to anyone in particular, or if he meant we’re all a part of each other. Either way, it’s a beautiful thought.


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“Enthusiasm is the answer to everything.” - Rodrigo’s father


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No one knows what they’re doing. Just be kind and brave and curious. You don’t have to have it figured out.


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White privilege doesn’t mean that your life hasn’t been hard, it means that your skin color isn’t one of the things making it harder.


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The person who lives in the body gets to say who touches that body.


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I wrestle with leaving the church but I want to save you a lifetime of feelings of unworthiness. It’s totally normal to feel like you’re not good enough. We all battle those kinds of insecurities, so the last thing we need is to be taught that God thinks it too. Know that in reality we are all precious, down to the subatomic level. So when you think you’re unworthy, shake it off! You belong in every room you enter.


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Defending yourself from a bear: NEVER run from or turn your back on a bear. Remember the rhyme: “If it’s black, fight back. If it’s brown hit the ground, if it’s white like Similac, frozen bear gonna send u back.” - Mamadou Ndiaye


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"You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read." ~ James Baldwin


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Ask him for Christmas present: recite Andy Weir’s “The Egg.” Bonus points for memorization! Also great idea for audition tape. )I’m assuming you’ll be in theater!) xoxo


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“God is gentle and loving. He desires you to have a deep sense of safety in His love.” - paraphrasing Henri Nouwen


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Read the Hobbit aloud with him. Afterward, encourage him to read The Lord of the Rings by himself.


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Shelter, water, Fire, food. (Outdoor survival priorities.)


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Take the train to Roanoke.


10



On September 11th I was at work in Fairfax VA. News reports were saying a plane was headed to the Capitol, that the Whitehouse had been hit. In the immediate aftermath of a big event, news reports will be unreliable. Wait until the facts are in. Several of the nurses had husbands who worked at the Pentagon. One of the doctors was married to a U.S. Senator in her office on the Hill. It was surreal, but no one panicked. I remember we all burst into tears when my friend’s husband called saying he was safe. So relieved.


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Birds of a feather flock together


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Highly encourage typing/ keyboarding class.


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“Fitting in” requires that we change who we are to fit someone else’s idea. True “belonging” never asks us to change who we are, it demands that we be who we are. - Brene Brown


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To quote Harvard professor Adam Grant: “Argue like you’re right and listen like you’re wrong.”


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Appalachian Mountain Club


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Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. Unless you're a lifeguard. ;)


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