Teach them about shaken baby syndrome.


13



Build a backyard adventure camp


8



General rule for health and happiness: avoid excess.


10, 14, 17, 21



It’s very easy to wander into trouble- not usually easy to wander out of it.


12



“Anger is a wonderful catalyst but a terrible companion.” - Brene Brown


15, 21



Discuss the definition And ramifications of sexual misconduct (harassment, consent, etc.)


12



Don’t waste your time with anyone who doesn’t love you for exactly who you are. Move on, because there is someone out there who will!


17



“Just because you think it doesn’t mean it’s true. Your brain’s a little $@!#% and likes to lie to you.” -Elyse Myers


15, 21



Typically, brains aren’t mature until about age 25. ADHD brains take longer


17, 21



You are always responsible for how you act, no matter what you’re feeling. (Or whether you’re drunk or in any way impaired.) Hammer this point home for the next 10 years!


13



Don’t use a bad word when you can use a good word.


10



Teach them what to do if they hit an animal while driving on the road. (First find out what you’re supposed to do, THEN teach them.)


16



A useful opening line in a conversation (personal, parenting or professional) is “What should I know about ...”. It shows you understand you have something to learn, and it makes people feel valued. “What should I know about what’s going on at football practice?”


14



Marry for character, not just chemistry.


17, 21



Look into Space Camp for next year


8



Build a treehouse together


8



“If you can’t figure something out, figure out how to figure it out.” - Paul Graham


18



Painful or unpleasant emotions can’t grow if you stay in the present. (Easy way to do this is to focus on your breathing.)


10, 13, 16, 21



Slip and Slide party!


8



Check out School of Rock (Vienna) or Bach to Rock.


9



You're about to come into a ton of energy and strength. It will seem like a lot to manage at first, but you'll get used to it and learn to use it constructively. Push your limits (within reason.) Challenge yourself.


13



Sometimes grief looks a lot like anger. Are you upset about something you lost or had to let go of?


15, 21



Two rules: First, don’t be a sh!tty person. 2. Try to have some fun. Everything else is just “whatever.”


13, 21



Once or twice a year my parents would clean all the walls and baseboards in the house. Every time I smell Murphy’s Oil Soap I think of that. They mostly separated work around traditional gender roles but only insofar as that’s what they liked. Mom had no desire to work in the yard, Dad didn’t like to cook (until he got a bread machine for his retirement!) They often worked together on big tasks no matter inside or outside. Teamwork! And clean walls.


21



If you’re ever in a situation where you’re worried you might need people to believe you in the future, take contemporaneous notes. Write or record what happened, how you responded. Focus on the facts but don’t ignore your thoughts or feelings, include them in your notes. Date and sign it. Keep it safe.


14, 17, 19, 21



The person who lives in the body gets to say who touches that body.


5



C.S. Lewis books. (Children’s and adult.)


12, 21



My worst fear is that I will be unable to reach you when you’re in pain. All I want as a parent, what my whole job boils down to, is to be there when you need me. How can I help you?


13



Sesame Street has great resources on teaching finances to little ones.


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