Getting your drivers license will depend not only on government requirements (age, passing tests, etc.) but also maturity and trustworthiness.


14



Respect people’s privacy. No snooping, eavesdropping, peeping, etc.


11



Practice making yourself do something you don’t feel like doing. Practice and it gets easier


10, 12, 15, 18, 21



The more you want, the less you get.


14, 16, 21



If you feel like you can’t get your act together, that you’re less mature than some others your age, I have the recipe for being a grown up: Read, travel, help those in need. READ everything you can get your hands on: books, audio books, newspapers, etc. Travel to places that are different than your experience. Keep a lookout for people (or animals, or groups or causes, etc) who are struggling. HELP those in need.


12, 14, 16, 19, 21



One regret I have is how sure I was that I was in the right. Looking back I can see now that there were plenty of times when I was the a-hole. I wish I had been able to be circumspect.


14, 17, 21



Don’t play hard to get. Be hard to earn.


16, 21



Teach your pets they can trust you. Take care of them. Treat them with tenderness. Teach them how to behave. (Unless it's a cat. You can't teach cats anything.)


15



Never pretend o know what you don’t know. But you can bluff your way through a lot of interviews just by doing a 30 minute Google search. Research the company, the industry, its governing body, key terms, awards, criticism, etc. Check out their social media.


17, 19, 21



YouTube Randy Pauch The Last Lecture. Watch together.


14



Two words: Kinetic Sand.


3



Read "A Wrinkle in Time" (me too.)


10



Don’t waste your life’s purpose worrying about what other people think about you.


12, 15, 21



I wrestle with leaving the church but I want to save you a lifetime of feelings of unworthiness. It’s totally normal to feel like you’re not good enough. We all battle those kinds of insecurities, so the last thing we need is to be taught that God thinks it too. Know that in reality we are all precious, down to the subatomic level. So when you think you’re unworthy, shake it off! You belong in every room you enter.


13, 15, 21



Conflict resolution tip: Are we talking about how we got here, or how we get out of here? Because those are two entirely different conversations.


14, 16, 20



Let decency be like a religion to you. Practice it …but don’t preach it.


14



Sex talk: “Forget about sex. Just play first.” Forget about making a move and just have fun. Dance, listen to music together, go somewhere exciting, look at something beautiful, read to each other, play sports, let yourself be seen and encourage them to do the same. Communicate in a hundred ways: talk/send texts/ post on social media, pass notes, whatever. “Sex isn’t the door to intimacy


15



People will speak or act in all kinds of unpleasant ways. Stay calm and kind.


14-21



Listen to the radio stations they listen to. Know their favorite songs and artists.


12



“Be brave. Be resilient. Be kind. Be grateful.” -Hillary Rodham Clinton


12



Chemistry is not the same thing as compatibility.


16, 19, 21



If you don’t have anything intelligent to say on a subject it’s fine (encouraged) to say nothing. Listen. Learn.


20



Mindset for a breakup: “I’d rather adjust to your absence than be continually frustrated by your presence.” Can work with romantic partners, jobs, habits...anything you’re hanging on to that you know you should let go of.


19



Geocaching


5-11



“Your life unfolds in proportion to your courage.” -Danielle Le Port


15, 18



Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


11



Practice your signature


13



Don’t feed the thing you’re fighting.


13, 17, 21



A simple trick to calm your nerves: Name 5 things you can hear right now.


5-15