“For better or worse means no matter what life throws at us, not no matter what you do to me.” - Brenda Linn


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Zoom out! Perspective is your friend. At certain times in our lives we have the focus turned up so high that we don’t see beyond ourselves. (Adolescence is one of those times, totally natural.) Zoom out. You’ll feel better.


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A friend of mine lost her son in a horrible accident. She wrote “I don’t believe God caused this but I do believe he can redeem it.” That has stayed with me for years. God doesn’t cause suffering... He showers those who suffer with his grace.


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Jazz in the Garden free outdoor concerts at National Gallery of Art. Fridays during summer months.


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Cotillion and other social clubs abound in our area. They usually start around 5th or 6th grade. start looking into what might be a good fit. Lay the ground work that they will attend.


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Sometimes there’s nothing you can say or do to help someone feel better. In times like that, just make sure you don’t make it worse.


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Try out Petra Lingua online language courses for kids. (Ages 3-10)


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A person is only as good as how they treat you when they are angry with you.


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Kindness is magic.


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Two big things. Control yourself, not others. Learn to react less.


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Sometimes the only thing you can do is to show up. Be there.


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Never do two illegal things at the same time. Don’t break the law while breaking the law.


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A man is not a financial plan.


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Watch the western “1883”.


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Let decency be like a religion to you. Practice it …but don’t preach it.


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Attend a school board meeting or some sort of government meeting. Attend / participate.


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Resource: the website Ask, Listen and Learn has great material about how to start a conversation about the dangers of under-age drinking. asklistenlearn.org


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Talk about the difference between not feeling comfortable and not feeling safe.


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In 2024 there’s a medical test to screen for cancer that involves collecting one’s poo and sending it off to the lab. They just called me to tell me they canceled my test due to a clerical error on the order. I was so mad. The thought of doing that poo test again was freaking me out. Why didn’t the flunky who handles the specimens call before they pitched it? Then it dawned on me: it’s someone’s *job* to process poo specimens. Probably hundreds a day. It’s okay they didn’t stop to call and straighten out my test.perspective!!


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Dress to people will listen to you, not look at you. (This is especially true at school and work.)


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Go as a family to local high school musical productions.


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1

Be a safe place. Teach them to be a safe place too.


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Follow love and kindness wherever they may take you and you’ll be fine. xoxo


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Start explaining wants vs. needs. Continue explaining for the next 30 years. We don’t always get what we want. That’s okay. 4 year olds can begin to understand this.


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Thomas Jefferson’s Ten Rules of Conduct. This makes a good exercise for penmanship or for writing “lines” as instructional punishment.


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I think the term “find myself” simply means figuring out how much of what you do/think/want/believe/care about/ feel is there because some parents, siblings, family — or institutions — or ad campaigns — or political party, or whatever put it there and fed it, vs. how much ch of all that you present to the world and to yourself, is genuine…The good, the bad, and the ugly? (Go find yourself! Tell the rest of us to F off!) xoxo


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