vaccinate! Science is good.


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Listen to the radio stations they listen to. Know their favorite songs and artists.


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open your own business


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Start the tradition of First Sunday dinners. On the first Sunday of the month, have a "mini-holiday" dinner. Invite family, friends. Use the nice dishes, make a big meal. Celebrate family.


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Teach how to carve a turkey.


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I love the quote “The call towards authenticity is sacred” by Paula S. Williams I think it means that a few things: Being called. We are called by something higher to grow and stretch, to evolve. That evolution is a journey that should be undertaken with humility, compassion and love. To impede one’s quest to be authentic, be it our own or another’s, is a grave injustice and should be avoided at all cost.


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Keep difficult conversations brief. Under ten minutes then table it so everyone can process.


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Train for a mini-triathlon together as a family this year.


12



Turn off main water line when you leave on vacation.


21



Pick a project on Instructables.com and work on it together this winter.


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Respect people’s privacy. No snooping, eavesdropping, peeping, etc.


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Repeat after me: “I am beautiful I am loved I am safe I am free. I don’t need to be like them I just need to be like me.”


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Never allow anyone to tell you who you are.


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“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as remaining where you no longer belong, or where you’re unable to be yourself and thrive.” Mandy Hall (paraphrased.)


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Approach difficult conversations looking to learn something, not to prove something.


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Actions have consequences- so does inaction. Avoiding a problem or decision is not an effective solution.


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Brambly Hedge series by Jill Barklem.


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Teen years are a whole other ballgame. Find a community and stay up with trends and news. Check out the website Raising Teens Today.


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You are always responsible for how you act, no matter what you’re feeling. (Or whether you’re drunk or in any way impaired.) Hammer this point home for the next 10 years!


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Read poem “Wild Geese” by Mary Oliver. (“...You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves...”)


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Kids Can Make a Difference is a great resource for teaching little kids about poverty and equality.


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If you see a kid sitting alone, he or she might be your next best friend. Go say hi! Ask him/her to sit next to you / play on your team, etc. No need to worry about whether that person is “too cool” or “not cool enough,” they’re just a kid. Like you.


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“Remember Divas and Friends, if you don’t think good things about yourself, how do you expect anybody else to?” - Sheryl Lee Ralph


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There’s a big difference between being tired and being fatigued.


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Third or fourth grade is usually a time of friendship drama. Hurt feelings abound. Treat yourself and them gently. Hold space for sadness and frustration. The last thing we ever want to do is to change who we are (what we like) in order to fit in. Good friends encourage you to let your light shine, they don’t mock your light, or imply you should dim it. I don’t care who’s popular, good looking etc, beware of anyone who thinks mean is cool. Gravitate towards kind, weird, talented, interesting, funny, etc. Good vibes are always better than “cool.”


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Sioux Nation quote: No one heals himself by wounding another.


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Go as a family to local high school musical productions.


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1

Talk to people like they belong and are valued exactly as they are in that moment.


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Don't say anything out loud that you wouldn't want repeated or overheard. Don't email / text, etc. anything that you wouldn't want forwarded.


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1

Sometimes hookups don’t go well. The vibe is off for whatever reason. Stop. It’s okay to say “actually, let’s just call it a night.” Trust your gut. Be kind but never apologize for saying no-thanks.


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