Give books. Inscribe them. Just a line or two can turn a good book into a treasure. Great for any occasion.


17



Home is where people love you.


21



Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


16



Don’t ask for anything until you’ve done what has been asked of you.


5



When COVID started my first thought was “Holy sh*t Trump is going to cancel the 2020 election because of pandemic.” Thank God I was wrong.


15



Quoting Sarah Bessel: “One of the best things Jen Hatmaker has taught me about raising big kids: if they get on the roller coaster of Big Emotions, my main first job is to stay on the platform. I am NOT to get in the car and ride up


12



Pay attention to what people do and what they say. Try to look past their appearance. This is especially true for women, who are almost always judged primarily on the way they look.


12, 15, 19



Behind every behavior is a need.


2, 3, 4, 13, 14



Book: “victory. Stand!” By Tommie Smith


14



Life is like the ocean: Filled with energy, beauty, scary schit, lots of interesting creatures and so much to be in awe of. We couldn’t possibly control it but we can be a part of it.


16



If it’s the right thing, if something needs to be done… Make yourself do it. You’re never going to “feel like it.” Practice daily with things big and / or small without complaining.


9, 12, 15, 21



Book “8 Candles and a Tree” about celebrating interfaith holidays.


7



Emphasize "First things first." Distraction is always a challenge. Redirect focus to first things first.


5



Compassion: Acting with love when faced with another’s suffering.


16



Read “Raising a Screen Smart Kid” by Julianna Miner before you consider giving him a phone.


10



You are never too old to play in the snow.


16



Look for glimmers. The opposite of triggers. Feels of elation, belonging, peaceful contentment. I just watched you glimmer as you delighted in your first Crunchbox. “I made this!!!”


12, 15, 19, 21



Practice being okay with someone misunderstanding you. Not everyone is going to “get” you. That’s okay.


14, 19, 21



Spend time with people you admire, in person and biographies, documentaries, novels and movies.


14-17, 21



Promise me you’ll never intentionally hurt anyone (including yourself.) There’s no need to suffer in silence, I will help you or get you to someone who can help you no matter what, no matter when, no matter why.


13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18



Practice real-life mental math: Calculate time / age: If someone was born in 1994 how old are they today? Make change in your head: Cost is 14.27, how much change do you have if you give the cashier 20 bucks? Calculate percentages: tips, tax brackets, sales!!


12, 14, 20



“You belong in every room you enter.” - Shonda Rhymes


6-21



Don’t let someone have to tell you twice that they don’t want you. Nothing good comes from hanging on after that.


15, 21



If you can’t afford to tip the server, you can’t afford to be there.


15



When you feel like you’re on fire with anger or fear, if you can’t shake it, put that fire to good use.


14



People will speak or act in all kinds of unpleasant ways. Stay calm and kind.


14-21



Ask your emotions “why” three times.


14, 16, 21



You may end up being a big shot, Good for you! But check yourself. The good lord wasn't above washing his friends' dirty feet so please don't feel like you're above any task that needs to be done. Enjoy your success but stay humble.


20



Write “thank you” notes, send pics of them wearing the outfit Grandma gave, etc. You get so many gifts...Be a grateful recipient.


7



“Praise in public. Discipline in private.” This is good advice for when you’re a parent and for when you’re a boss.


20